Thanksgiving Without Expectations
Hello amazing one,
You are a true gift and bless yourself and the world when you realize this.
Breaking free to be you asks that you live without trying to live up to your expectations, or the ones you believe others have of you.
Expectations are beliefs and desires that are held tightly. And expectations cause anxiety, frustration, and even sadness. Building a thriving life and business doesn’t flow when expectations are present.
Expectation statements in your mind:
“I should do this or else…”
“ If this doesn’t happen then…”
“ This relationship would work if they would…”
“ My life would be better if …”
We all have thoughts and desires —totally normal. It’s the focus of our thoughts that either help us spiral up into joy and peace or spiral down into stress and conflict.
When we have a tight grip on how outcomes should be, how our life should be, and how someone else should be, we suffer.
We suffer when we lose the thought that life is magical, that my breath is a gift, and that all those in my life are a blessing.
Holding on to expectations is like walking a tight rope inside of yourself. One wrong step (if expectations aren’t delivered) and the house of cards falls. Expectations lead to disappointment and resentment.
We were not born with expectations. You came into this world just living life… you used to giggle and play. You lived a life of play, until the moment expectations were placed on you. We learned this from others, and we applied it to ourselves.
We can go back to living a life of play!
Letting go of expectations that are really restrictions is possible.
It requires that you choose what you want to believe.
And choosing is the greatest power you have to letting go and living a life of peace and joy.
The unchecked mind will run you to keep you safe. And it will always tell you that you need to strive to measure up and be accepted.
The conscious mind asks questions and chooses the opposite thought of the automatic judging mind.
So if you’re willing to have more joy and peace in your life, would you ask yourself how could the opposite be true of the thought that is causing me to suffer?
How might I be enough just right here and right now in this moment?
How might those in my life be like me - fearful that they don’t measure up? And how might I just send them love and believe they are enough, because I give that to myself?
We all want to be loved, accepted, and safe. How can you give that to yourself starting today? How can you give yourself grace?
Rewiring your mind every time you feel you aren’t enough or someone isn’t living up to your expectations is the constant work to becoming the change.
Setting a new mantra in your mind to practice all day long - “ Right here and right now, I am enough. I have enough. And I am learning to love myself.” Rewiring what you want to believe about yourself and the world is the most loving action step you can give yourself and others.
Shifting from expectations to choosing what brings love, joy, and peace is a daily practice.
Letting go of what no longer serves you and choosing what does is the greatest power in your control. Your mindset is a gift if used to expand possibilities.
I hope you take the gift of you for all you are worth. You are like no other to live as such a time as this.
You are the gift.
And without expectations, I send you love.
To more joy and peace this Thanksgiving!
Xxoo,
Debra
“My Genius is Seeing Yours.”